Broken Promises Hurt More Than We Admit (And Here’s Why They Still Matter)
- love always
- Jan 9
- 2 min read
Have you ever had a promise broken? Not a small one. Not a “sorry, got busy” kind of thing. A real promise. The kind that made you rearrange your heart around it.
Because that kind of break doesn’t just disappoint you — it shatters something internal.
I’m QueenB.Divine, welcome to my on going journey and healing and if this topic hits a nerve, you’re not alone.
As kids, promises felt physical. Tangible. Like you could hold them in your hands. Pinky promises. Cross-my-heart promises. Adults didn’t just say things — they promised them. And we believed it. We waited. We hoped. We planned our little lives around those words. Because someone taught us early on that a promise meant safety. Certainty. Truth.
And then… it didn’t happen.
What messes us up isn’t always the broken promise itself — it’s the waiting. That long stretch between “I promise” and reality. That space where faith is tested, imagination runs wild, and the future feels temporarily secure because someone said the word. A promise gives you permission to move forward. To endure the now. To tolerate the uncertainty.
So when it breaks, you don’t just lose the outcome. You lose the ground you were standing on.
That’s why the sentence “but you promised” hits so deep — whether you’re five or fifty-five. There is no other word in the human language that carries that much emotional weight. Promise sounds like strength. Like solidity. Like something you could tuck into your chest and keep warm until it came true.
And when it doesn’t?
You feel foolish for believing. Sad for hoping. Angry for waiting.
I remember asking someone — someone I trusted, someone who felt like a guide — if something would happen. They looked at me like the answer was obvious. “Yes. Of course.” That was over twenty years ago. Nothing happened. Not even close. And for a long time, that broken promise lived rent-free in my heart.
Eventually, I had to forgive. Not because it was okay — but because carrying it was heavier than letting it go.
Here’s the raw truth most of us learn the hard way: Sometimes promises aren’t lies — they’re placeholders. The universe saying, “I need you to keep going right now. I’ll explain later.”
And later, when you’re stronger, you realize something even deeper.
Promises reveal character.
Some people speak promises easily. Others live them quietly.
And in a world that’s grown cynical, where words are cheap and commitments are optional, the rare ones who keep their promises need to speak louder. Act louder. Be visible. Because promises still matter. They still motivate. They still heal. They still give people something to hold onto when life feels unstable.
So let me ask you — honestly:
Has someone ever made you a promise they didn’t keep? How did it change you? Did it harden you… or teach you discernment?
Because the new you is coming soon. But it’s also already here — wiser, clearer, and more careful with who you believe.
And if you’re one of the few who still keeps your word?
Please don’t stop. The world needs you more than you know.
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